I have noticed something, since my hubby became a LEO (law enforcement officer.) I’m not what a lot of people expected, and it seems to be a trend.
Ever since I told a select few of people, of my hubby’s career change, I have been asked the same questions.
Aren’t you afraid he’ll get hurt? How will you handle him never being home? How can you sleep at night when he’s not home?
The questions are never ending. They are worse since I’m trying to find other wives I can connect with. A lot of fellow new wives, are mostly marrying into the LEOW (law enforcement officer’s wife) life. But few, like me, married before this life. A lot of wives, also have something in common with me. We grew up military.
The answers to a lot of the questions, were the same ones I was asked as a kid, growing up with Daddy always deployed.
I’m not really scared. I’m used to it. And, I’m used to it.
Let me back up and give a little back story. My poor dad, ever since 9/11, was hardly home. The Army decided that it was better for him to be away in Iraq. I don’t remember a lot from my childhood, but I do remember that at some point, I stopped asking when Dad was coming home. I slept at night knowing that my dad was safe, even though I didn’t see him or hear him.
That carried into my adult life. When my husband and I married, he was a cable lineman. Always working storm damage or fixing lines from car accidents. My hubby, was literally never home. There has been a time where he worked over 72 hours straight and came home and slept for 48 hours, just to go back to work as soon as he woke up. I also never really heard from him, since it’s extremely dangerous to be on a phone while working on the lines.
My hubby and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary, right before he started the academy.
With the recent events that took place in North Carolina, involving LEOs, I was asked if I had a plan. One of what to do if something serious happened to my hubby and he needed medical care, who would take care of my pets and children (they didn’t know that I don’t have kids.) My answer was, not really. Regardless of the fact I work in the local hospital (not a nurse), I would still have to go home every day to take care of my dogs. (One of which we rescued and is extremely territorial of our house.)
One of the other questions I got was regarding my emotions about this. My hubby being a LEO. If I worry about him every day. If I worry that I don’t hear from him. My answer is simply, no. It doesn’t mean I’m heartless. It means that no news is good news. It’s something that the Army taught me.
I don’t expect my hubby to text me every time I text him. I don’t expect him to meet me for lunch. I don’t expect him to have holidays/anniversaries off. It’s something I don’t expect from him at all. It’s nice when he is able to do any of these things, don’t get me wrong. This career of his is extremely demanding, so why should I expect anything?
Him coming home to tell me about his day, is better than anything I could get.
So I guess to sum up this post, is that I’m different. Growing up a military brat, helped me prepare for the life as a LEOW.
This isn’t a post to shame others. It’s just something I felt I had to get off my chest. I’ve noticed since day one, that I’m not like a lot of other wives. We all cope differently. A lot of us have the same views, and some don’t. While a lot of wives like to brag about being a LEOW, I don’t really advertise it. Especially with the hate in our country.
Maybe this can be a regular thing. My tips on helping new LEOWs, maybe my entries can help them. I don’t know. We shall see.
Until next time,